Thursday, 31 January 2013

Advice for Single Ladies


A loyal reader forwarded this interesting piece
1. Guys love to marry an Independent and Matured lady... So instead of sitting there and waiting to be bluffed by a guy, focus on getting a career that would take you out of the house wife category... 
2. Never let the sweet talks of MOST guys deceive you, sometimes all they just want is to have easy access between your legs and run off thereafter.
3. Remove the mentality from your mind that guys will keep springing up to approach you. The older you get by the day, the less toasters you will have.
4. Playing 'too' hard to get is the worst thing you should ever start, remember, Nothing lasts forever. If you still doubt, check out the number of matured single ladies looking up to GOD FOR A MIRACLE (Husband).
5. Never extort things from a guy you don't love, guys always have ways of paying a girl back, either through their FRIENDS or total 'PAID' STRANGERS....BE CAREFUL.
6. Never be deceived you can trap a guy through sex. A man will also return to his wife who sex starves him for years once he loves and trust her. You can never win a man over with your body.
7. If all you take to the relationship is the mind set to EXTRACT MONEY from him, don't complain if all he ask from you is your body. He has seen you have nothing else to offer...
8. Don't be fooled when Guys tell you they have never met a prettier girl, they will say that same thing to an 80year old woman they want to get intimate with.
9. A guy always taking you to the SILVER-BIRD, FAST FOOD (pizza in or galitos), MALL AND EVENTS AT CONFERENCE CENTER/NATIONAL THEATRE is no sign that he loves you, if he doesn't care to ask and PLAN YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER then you are just his 'SOCIAL MATE' and nothing else....
10. If the only time he invites you over is when he needs to cook, clean the house and do his laundry, then just know you are his "executive house help".
11. If he avoids meeting your family and close friends then it is an obvious sign he is just playing games with you.
12. Don't always change the tv station from NTV to CHANNEL O, MTV and Fashion TV. Take time to find out what is bothering him and how you can help out.
13. If the only places he doesn't frown when you enter are his bedroom and kitchen then know you aren't welcome (only being used).
Have you noticed that most of the ladies that end up being emotionally abused are the ones at the receiving end... Always with open arms, requesting for something and ready to receive... The more you widen your arms, the more he widens your legs.

A grown up guy who gives the excuse about his parents being wild when he brings female visitors to the house is a sign that HE HAS A SERIOUS GIRL AND HAS INTRODUCED HER TO HIS PARENTS ALREADY... ADVISE YOURSELF...

FINALLY, I ALWAYS SAY THIS AND WILL REPEAT IT AGAIN... It's better to be sitting in a taxi smiling happily than to be in your husband’s fresh air conditioned BMW x6 with bruised eyes wearing a fresh Gucci shades alongside a Burberry scarf....

JUST REMEMBER, THAT DATING A RICH MAN DOESN'T GUARANTEE HAPPINESS IN MARRIAGE... MONEY IS
NOT EVERYTHING..... MAKING RIGHT CHOICES IN LIFE IS WHAT MATTERS MOST!

EFCC Arrests 20 Yahoo -Yahoo Boys In Benin City

The Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) has arrested twenty suspected internet fraudsters. The arrest, which was carried out in a joint operation with officers of the 4 Brigade of the Nigerian Army, Benin, followed intelligence report on their activities. They were nabbed in a surprise raid on their Cyber office tucked in an old building located on Siluko Road, Benin City.
At the point of arrest, the fraudsters had in their possession forty five (45) laptops of different make, twenty eight (28) telephone sets, eight (8) internet mobile modems and one Nissan car with registration number USL 375 AG.
The suspected fraudsters who are mostly in their twenties includes: Idehen Obabueki, Adesa Lucky, Usuagu Uche, Eloghosa Olikiabor, Larry Edomwonyi, Amowie Maike, Francis Ezegbede, Itua Samuel and Endurance John Egbeifo. Others are Amego Ovenseri, Iyen Ighodaro, Philip Agbodori, Lucky Robinson, Nnadi Obinna, Osabuohien Osahon, Chinenu Eze, Peter Sunday, Solomon Ogu, Niyi Femi and Osagie Aghedo.
The suspects have made useful statements. Most of them confessed to be engaged in online dating of foreigners particularly widows. They also confessed to using different pseudo names and faces to deceive their prospective victims. They will be charged to court as soon as investigation is concluded.


Saturday, 26 January 2013

important things no one tells you about marriage



Outside of communication, the ability to resolve problems is the second most important part of marriage.
Every day it feels as if we are bombarded with negative reports about the institution of marriage. So much so that you would think no one is getting married anymore, right? Well, that statement couldn’t be further from the truth. Last year alone there were nearly 3 million weddings in the U.S.
If the number of marriages is so high, why all of the negative press, you ask? Many experts say other factors are often used to support the “poor state of marriage.” For example: The number of couples who live together without marrying has increased tenfold since 1960 and Americans are waiting about five years longer to marry than they did in 1970.  On top of that, the divorce rate, namely among lower socio-economic groups, is increasing.
Before you make any conclusions, know that there is a silver lining in the recent data reported. Among couples getting married, there is increased stability. More and more couples are acknowledging that it is important to have a level of awareness and skills before entering matrimony in order to remain in matrimony. In 2011, nearly 50 percent of couples received premarital counseling.
While I don’t offer premarital counseling (yet), if I did, these are the 13 subjects I would focus on.
Conflict Resolution Is Key
Outside of communication, the ability to resolve problems is the second most important part of marriage. Having the same values allows for better understanding when working on the big issues — such as how to raise the children.
Marriage Is Not Always 50/50
Sometimes you have to put in the majority of what’s needed in the relationship. Other times, your partner will put in more. This is called teamwork. And it takes teamwork to make the dream work.
Attraction Typically Grows
Don’t worry if you will continue being attracted to your partner 5, 10, or 15 years in the future. According to a recent study I read about couples married for 30 years, most reported being more attracted to their spouse now than at the time of their wedding. (No wonder that Viagra is seeing explosive growth in their 55-65 year old age bracket)
Your Marriage Isn’t Safe from Gossip
Ninety-nine percent of the people you know will gossip about your marriage. Keep your personal business between you and your spouse and that gossip will have zero impact.
Don’t Make Comparisons
It’s very destructive and dangerous to compare your spouse to other people (or worse, celebrities and public figures). Don’t do it, ever.
Marriage Isn’t a Finish Line
I’ll never forget someone telling me (just days before my wedding), “man, you’re getting ready to check out, you’re reaching the finish line.” He couldn’t have been further from the truth. Marriage is the start of another incredible journey in life, not an ending to your happy story.
Good Communication Is Part of Your Foundation
All relationships (romantic and platonic) live and die based on the strength of communication. This is one area that should be honed prior to marriage.
Sex With Just One Person Is Not A Death Sentence
According to numerous national sex surveys, both married men and women report having higher satisfaction and more frequent sex than singles.
Focus On Height Rather than Length
When I tell people I’ve been married for 10 years, I get all kinds of congratulations but I’m never asked about the quality of those years. Society is obsessed with “how long” we do certain things. It is more important to focus on soaring as high as possible together.
Complacency Is Not Your Friend
Straying emotionally or physically from a relationship typically happens when one partner becomes complacent. Keeping your marriage fresh and exciting should be your motto.
The In-Laws Are Not the Enemy
Marriage is not simply the joining of two people, it’s the merger of two families and legacies. Treat it as such.
A Great Marriage Isn’t Conflict Free
If someone tells you they never argue with their spouse, send them back to the insane asylum. Real couples fight. Great couples fight fair.
Kids Are Serious Business
Despite what R&B tells us, becoming parents isn’t as simple as “let’s go half on a baby.” Bringing a child into a marriage will test every strand of your relationship. Be sure your marriage is strong, before even thinking about a baby.

source: ynaija

Okada’ rider stabs peacemaker to death in Lagos


A 23-year-old commercial motorcycle rider, Jigila Ibrahim, has been remanded in prison custody for allegedly stabbing Talabi Ademola (43) to death with a screw-driver.
Ademola was reported to have been stabbed to death while trying to settle a fight between Ibrahim and a passenger over transportation fare.
Ibrahim, who operates a commercial motorcycle popularly known as ‘okada’, was arraigned before the court on a count charge of murder, an offence which according to the prosecutor, Iyobosa I., is punishable under section 221 of the criminal law of Lagos state of Nigeria, 2011.
According to Iyobosa: “On the day of the incident, a passenger hired the accused from Opebi to a Total filling station at Oregun, and they bargained for N200, but on return from the trip the passenger offered the Okada rider N120, instead of  the agreed N200 and this resulted in a fight during which the accused (the Okada rider) brought out a screwdriver from his motorcycle and stabbed the deceased who was trying to settle the rift between the okada rider and the passenger, at the left side of the chest.”
Ademola, who was said to have been offloading cement from a truck, was confirmed dead at the Lagos State University Teaching hospital (LASUTH).
The Magistrate, Kemi Doja-Ojo, ordered the prosecutor to duplicate the case file and forward it to the  office of Director of Public Prosecution (DPP) for advice.
The case was later adjourned till February 15 for mention.

Friday, 25 January 2013

26-year-old woman delivers two babies within nine months


26yr-twobabiesA woman has defied medical odds to give birth to two children in nine months – even though she was using contraception both times she became pregnant.
Claire Ormrod (26) had her daughter Alice on December 6, 2011, at 25 weeks, by emergency Caesarean. When she was born, weighing just 1lb 3oz (500g), Alice was the smallest baby ever born in Wales. Seven weeks later Ms Ormrod then became pregnant again, despite being on the pill, and had healthy baby Gareth, weighing exactly 2lbs (900g), at 29 weeks, also by emergency Caesarean, on September 7, 2012.
Doctors have been stunned at the “medical impossibility” of the two babies being born so close together. Alice and Gareth will be in the same class when they start at a primary school in Rhyl, north Wales.
Ms Ormrod, who jointly runs a martial arts company with her partner Gareth Gee (36), has three older children – Molly (7), Jack (5) and Charlie (2). All five were conceived in spite of precautions.
She said: “With every one of my children I was on the pill or the coil,” she explained.
“I was on the waiting list to be sterilised when I fell pregnant with Gareth. The coil is supposed to be 99,99 percent effective and I was on it when I had three of my children.” She was in fact on a waiting list to be sterilised when she discovered she was expecting for the fifth time.
Given the ordeal she had so recently been through with Alicebeing born so prematurely, Ms Ormrod said she was “absolutely petrified” when she discovered she was pregnant again.

“My GP said I should have a termination. He said it would end up killing me and the baby and that it wouldn’t be fair to put me through it. But I said no,straight out. No one could believe it when we told them I was pregnant again. They just couldn’t get their heads round the fact that the two babies would be so close together,” said Ms Ormrod.
Had Alice been born a week earlier, at the 24 weeks, she says doctors wouldn’t have tried to save her. Medical experts believe that babies bornat this stage only have a tiny chance of survival. Ifthey do pull through, they are more likely to have long-term health problems such as lung conditions,learning difficulties and cerebral palsy.
Ms Ormrod said: “She would have been a 24-week baby and they wouldn’t have thought she had a chance,” she said. Alice was so ill that her family had started arranging her funeral and gave her a hasty baptism. Crucially, they were 90 minutes from switching off her life support machine when she showed her first signs of life.
Ms Ormrod said:”We were told she was so ill, they would have turn off her life support machine, because she couldn’t survive.
“One hour before they were about to turn it off, she woke up, then she started breathing on her own. She is a miracle baby, she is a fighter. They told us there was no brain activity and then she woke up.

Woman Burns Girl’s Thighs With Hot Iron



A 39-year old Nigerian woman has burnt a girl’s thighs with hot iron after accusing her of stealing her N1,000 at Oshodi area of Lagos State.

The woman, Mrs. Kudirat Isekolowo, who lives at  Igbehinadun area of Oshodi, said she did not know what came over her when she carried out the act.
The mother of three was arrested by officials of the Lagos State Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation, WAPA, and Esther Child Right Foundation and brought to the Lagos State Government Secretariat, Alausa, Ikeja.
Traders were close to tears at Oshodi Market where the woman sells clothes, when they saw how the thighs of the 15-year old girl (name withheld) was seriously burnt, leaving permanent deep scars on her body.
The little girl was sent by her parents, who live at Agege area of Lagos, to live with Isekolowo and serve as apprentice in her clothing shop. She started living with her in November 2012.
At the WAPA Ministry, Alausa, there was anger when government officials saw the deep wounds on the girl’s body, while they described the woman as extremely wicked and needed to be punished severely.
Apart from the deep wounds on her thighs, there are also wounds all over her body, occasioned by constant beating and maltreatment.
According to the girl, Kudirat accused her of stealing her N1,000 last week, but she denied stealing the money.
She said the woman plugged a pressing iron and made sure it was very hot and pressed it on her two thighs and one of her hands, leaving deep wounds on her body.
“I am not the one who stole the N1,000. She said I took it and I denied it. She plugged iron and pressed it on my two thighs. My parents live in Agege, they asked me to live with her and learn how to sell clothes as they don’t have money,” she explained.
On why there were other wounds all over her body, she said Kudirat usually beat her with wire. Kudirat admitted carrying out the act, saying that the girl stole her N1,000.
“She stole my N1,000 last week and I don’t know what came over me.  I know what I did is bad.  I don’t know what happened to me when I did it,” she said.
Kudirat wept when she knew that she could go to jail for her wicked act. Even her close friends who came with her felt very bad when they saw the degree of damage to the girl’s thighs.
Executive Director, Esther Child Right Foundation, Mrs Esther Ogwu said she got a call from the founder of Compassionate Women Initiative, Mrs. Mary Olasupo, about a woman who burnt the thighs of a little girl with hot iron.
“We moved in immediately with the WAPA officials and arrested her and brought her to Alausa. At Oshodi market where we arrested her, traders were screaming when they saw the wound in the girl’s body,” she explained.
Esther said it is now left for the state government to prosecute her in accordance with the child right’s law to serve as a deterrent to others.
According to Mary, the founder, Compassionate Women Initiative, “a woman called me some days ago to intimate me about the incident. She told me that a woman had an apprentice, whom she accused of stealing her N1,000 and then used hot iron to burn her two thighs. That was when I called Esther Child Right Foundation for help and they came.”
Officials of the state government have vowed that the woman would be prosecuted and be made to pay for her callous act.

Thursday, 24 January 2013

Baby born with heart outside her body leaves hospital after miracle surgery

A happy, strong and recovering Audrina decked out in a bow and heart shield to protect the vital organ.
A three-month old baby born with her heart outside her body will finally leave the hospital on Thursday with the vital organ safely back in her chest.
Audrina Cardenes was born with a rare and normally fatal condition called ectopia cordis, in which all or part of the heart is outside the body.
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Audrina’s heart was fully outside her body when she was born, a rare, and usually deadly condition.

A skilled team of surgeons at Texas Children’s Hospital in Houston operated on Audrina’s strong but exposed heart in November, and new photos from the procedure released Thursday show her heart “shield.”


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Audrina’s mother,  Ashley Cardenas, was a fixture at the hospital. She will now be able to take her daughter home, officials said Thursday.

“Only eight out of 1 million babies are born with ectopia cordis, and 90 percent of these babies are either stillborn or die within the first 3 days of life,” the hospital’s official blog said after Audrina’s surgery.
Two months after her operation to place her heart back inside her chest, the baby is now ready to leave the hospital and go home with her family.
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Baby Audrina with her heart shield.

“Audrina is a true fighter and we are hopeful that she will continue to progress,” Audrina’s surgeon, Dr. Charles D. Fraser, said shortly after the risky operation. “I am also hopeful that Audrina’s case marks the beginning of our ability to care for more children diagnosed with ectopia cordis in the future.”
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Baby Audrina gets company from her older siblings as she recovers.

How Prophet Brutally Battered His Son For Going To Church

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A cleric, Prophet Elikanah Ajibade, who was charged to court on Tuesday and was remanded in prison, was accused to have physically abused his son because he attended a church service against his instruction.
According to the details obtained by Crime Reports, the boy who is now in the care of  JWC staff, reportedly left home for the new year eve service on Monday, December 31, 2012, in a church which was not his father’s, though against the will of his father.
The father, a Cherubim and Seraphim prophet at Okinni, a town  in Egbedore Local Government area of Osun State, had earlier told his son who is his late wife’s third son not to go to any other church for the service to usher in a new year.
It was gathered that Prophet Ajibade, in annoyance, went to the church, interrupted the service and brought  David out, lashing him with strokes of cane. Efforts by members of the church, Salvation Army Church, Okinni, to rescue the hapless boy proved abortive as the father reportedly shunned their pleas.
The boy, who told the police that the father started maltreating him since the demise of his biological mother, recounted that the father in company of his stepmother and stepbrother beat him mercilessly. “When we got home, my dad, his wife and her son descended on me. They tied my hands with a rope and started beating me mercilessly”.
With tears cascading down his cheeks, David Ajibade said, “after beating me, my stepmother locked my me and my father inside and took the key away. Then my dad continued to beat me and when he was tired, he ordered that I should be rolling on hot ashes”.
While giving his account on the matter, Prophet Ajibade said the boy had been running away from home for years. He said, “he used to run away for weeks and would come back himself. On his last deed which got me angry, he ran away for one week”.
The father, whom Crime Reports learnt had never reported to the police anytime his son was missing, stated that he decided to punish the boy because of the tension and anxiety he went through and the problems he encountered while looking for the boy. He denied asking the boy to roll on hot ashes.
Confirming the arraignment in court, the Police Public Relations Officer in Osun State, Mrs Folasade Odoro, told Crime Reports that the operatives of JWC were administering proper care and medical treatment on the boy in their custody

Wednesday, 9 January 2013

Funny but True- 5 Goats ArrestedAnd Charged To In Osun

No fewer than five goats were yesterday arrested at Dele-Yesa area in Osogbo, the Osun State capital by officials of the state Waste Management Agency (OWMA) for allegedly violating environmental laws.
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The state Coordinator of the agency, Mr. Henry Ogunbanwo said the goats would be charged to court by the agency and would be prosecuted in accordance with the laws guiding environmental protection in the state.
He said the state government had issued notice of warning to all residents of the state capital on the need to monitor their domestic animals to avoid public disturbance by the animals, which, he said, was against the environmental laws. Ogunbanwo disclosed that the five goats arrested were detained at the office of the agency in Osogbo from where they would be taken to court for prosecution.
He said the goats ran fowl of the laws guiding environmental protection by roaming around the residential area of Osogbo instead of being caged by their owners. He declared that the present administration in the state had zero tolerance for dirtiness and environmental hazard; hence the need for the enshrinement of the environmental laws, adding that the government would not take it lightly with violators of the laws According to him, officials of the agency would from now move to every nook and cranny of the state to arrest animals violating the state environmental laws, stressing that owners of such animals would also be dealt with in accordance with the provisions of the laws.
He advised those rearing domestic animals to keep them in a cage to avoid arrest, insisting that his agency would not allow any animal to roam about on the streets of any town or village in the state. He urged those looking for their goats in Osogbo and its environs to check at the state office of OWMA in Osogbo.

50 houses razed, 60 families displaced in Lagos slum fire

fire has ripped through a slum in Nigeria’s largest city, razing some 50 makeshift houses and several sawmills in the second major blaze in recent weeks, an emergency official said Wednesday.
No one was reported killed or injured in the fire in Lagos on Tuesday evening, though some 60 families have been displaced.
                                      Residents tried to extinguish the flames with buckets of water
“Some 50 houses built with (wooden) planks and several sawmills burnt in the Okobaba area of Ebute-Meta,” Ibrahim Farinloye of the National Emergency Management Agency (NEMA) told AFP.
He said “an electric spark” from Nigeria’s poorly maintained public power supply system was believed to have caused the blaze which lasted for two hours before it could be put out.
“Nobody was either killed or injured, but many people have been rendered homeless following the incident,” he said.
“We have some 60 families that have been displaced and NEMA is trying to assist them with relief materials.”
The blaze came just two weeks after an explosion of a warehouse storing fireworks and resulting fire destroyed 10 buildings, left one person dead and injured 40 others in the city.
Lagos is considered Africa’s second-largest city after Cairo, with some 15 million people. Fires are common in Nigeria during the dry season.

UNIBEN lecturer caught in the act of extortion

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A senior lecturer of the University of Benin (UNIBEN), has landed in trouble for extorting N100, 000 from a female student . The lecturer (name withheld), who is in the Faculty of Law was arrested by the university’s security personnel and handed over to the police after he allegedly collected the marked money from the student to change her course of study from English Language to Law.
It was learnt that the arrest of the lecturer had led to the busting of a syndicate that specialized in extorting money from students in the institution. Informed sources at the university revealed that the suspect, said to have strong links in the committee constituted by management to coordinate students’ inter-faculty movement every academic session, used his vantage position to compel the female student to pay N150,000 to approve her request for a switch from the Faculty of Arts to the Law faculty.
It was gathered that the student, who could not immediately raise the money, following pressure mounted on her by the lecturer, reported to another lecturer, who decried the planned extortion and encouraged her to formally lodge a complaint with the higher authority in the institution. Following the advice, the student played along and called the lecturer that she could only raise N100, 000, which she was promptly directed to pay into a certain account given her by the lecturer.
Luck, however, ran against the lecturer when he called the girl’s mobile phone, asking her to discontinue the bank arrangement and instead, to bring the money to him in his office, just when she was going to pay the money into the bank account earlier given to her. Sources told Daily Sun that no sooner that the female student delivered the marked money to the lecturer than the alerted personnel from the security unit swooped on the unsuspecting lecturer and handed him over to the police.
A search in the lecturer’s office by the university security personnel was said to have led to the discovery of a list of 18 students, including the female student who paid the N100, 000.00. When contacted, the Public Relations Officer of the university, Mr Harrison Osarenren, confirmed the report, saying “with the arrest, we will try and rid the system of bad eggs.”

Nigeria’s University of Benin unveils ‘cure’ for HIV/AIDS

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A cure for Human Immunodeficiency Virus, HIV, and Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome, AIDS, has been discovered, a Professor at the University of Benin said on Tuesday.
Isaiah Ibeh, the Dean of the School of Basic Medical Science of the University, said in Benin that the herbal drug has undergone “series of successful tests”.
“We are at the threshold of making history, in the sense that we seem to have with us something that will permanently take care of what over time seems to have defied all solutions.
“We are talking about the latest discovery of an oral drug made from plants extraction in Nigeria for the possible cure of the pandemic, HIV and AIDS virus,” he said.
Mr. Ibeh said research on the project started in 2010 and culminated in the development of “Deconcotion X (DX)–Liquid or Bioclean 11 for the cure of HIV and AIDS”.
He said that while the existing retroviral drugs are intervention drugs for the management of AIDS, the new discovery is a possible cure.
“We have tried to look at the product first; its toxicological analysis and discovered that it has a large safety margin. This means that if animals or human beings are exposed to it, they will not suffer any serious harm at all from the exposure.
“It also helped us to know the quantity we can conveniently give to animals and will feel secure that nothing untoward will happen. We have also done the bacteriological analysis on it, after which we looked at its effect on the virus and the result was quite revealing and refreshing.”
Mr. Ibeh also said that the drug had been exposed to series of medical examination both in Nigeria and in the USA.
He added that the drug had performed well on patients with the HIV virus and had shown evidence of total restoration of damaged tissues.
“The result showed an increase in the body weight of the individual administered with DX,” he said. “The body weight was statistically significant when compared with the control group.”
He said that further tests were being conducted to determine the point at which “a patient becomes negative after being administered the drug?”
“This verification is necessary because it is what is used to measure whether infection is still there or not. So we need to know the siro-convention time.
“But preliminary results showed that of the five latest patients orally administered with the drugs, our findings is that up to seven months , three of them were siro negative while two were sill faintly positive,” he said.
Mr. Ibeh appealed for support from the Federal Government and relevant bodies to assist the university with relevant equipment to sustain the research.

Tuesday, 8 January 2013

Having A Cordial Relationship With Your IN-LAWS

Okay. You are now married. Done the honeymoon and you are set for the straight business of settling down proper. Your in-laws! Did your heart just skip a beat like a damaged vinyl record? Calm down. You are too young to have hypertension.
On a serious note, one major factor that will determine the success and longevityof your marriage is the way you relate with and handle your in-laws. Do it correctly, you have the most blissful of matrimonies and get it wrong, you will sign the divorce papers faster than the ring entered your finger!
                                  
We have criss-crossed the globe and today, we bring to you and your loving spouse, 12 solid ways on how to relate with your in-laws. Irrespective of your religion, tribe or background, these universal values always work. Ready? Let's roll!

1. Know Them:  The very first thing you need to do is to know your in-laws. It does not sound too nice of you as a bride not to know the full names of your mother-in-law or what your father-in-law does for a living. Like, seriously? Drill your spouse, know all about her people. This will assist you in relating better with each member. Once you know them, communicate and pick clues yourself. You cannot be aloof and say it is 'me and my husband'. If you agree to marry your spouse, it means you have a new family. Know them, love them and cherish them.

2. Close? Yes, But Not Extremely Close: Your mother-in-law happens to be the very hospitable type, she cannot but pamper you every second of the day. Oh, lucky you! But there is something you must always know: excessive familiarity will always breed contempt. Be close to your in-laws but not too close for comfort. Give them breathing space even if they show you are the apple of their eyeballs. You have your family and they have theirs. create value by scarcity. Do not 'extra cool' your father-in-law at 2.30 am unless your wife is in labor -and he is a gynaecologist!

3. Do NOT Reveal All: Your father-in-law has taken you like a son and one cool weekend, you guys got talking. It all started from politics and before you know it, you started narrating how badly your wife cooks or how good she is in bed (who on earth does that?). Even though your father-in-law knows that you are married to his daughter, do not irritate him with the details of how you give her the pleasure. It is a no-no! Gist generally, give advice when your suggestion is called for and as for what is between you and your wife -let it remain like that.

4. Never Insult: Remember they are his parents and no one will take it lying low if you abuse their parents. Yes, he loves you but he loves his parents too. Do not run your mouth about her sisters or brothers. According to the book, The Mother-In-Law Dance: Can Two Women Love the Same Man and Still Get Along? by Annie Chapman, one of the most constructive ways by which a mother can stay within her boundaries is by containing the mighty force of the tongue. And yes! Let me remind you, even when he complains about his parents or relatives, calm him down -or keep quiet. Do not join him in hurling careless words at your in-laws -it will only boomerang later.
                                                   

5. Your Relationship First: In all that you do, never forget this: your relationship first! This is an instinct that should guide you in all you do. There are times you just have to sacrifice your ego not your dignity just for things to work out.

6. Appreciate Their Good Points: It takes two to tango. If your in-laws are trying their best to satisfy you, do not take them for granted. Appreciate that basket of fruits your mother-in-law sends every week for your children and do not say it is just fifty naira orange. Your appreciation and gratitude can sound little but will surely go a long way.

7. Visit Them (With The Kids): Just imagine yourself being a grandparent on nice weekends, with excited kids running all over your courtyard telling you tell them story after story. Visit your in-laws once in a while, and carry the kids with you, if you've got any. Do not deny grannies the right of seeing their little ones (it can be quite painful). Would you want anyone to do that to you? Unless your mother-in-law is a dragon, the cute smiles of the kids will always work wonders.

8. Compete With No One: Know your position as the wife or husband. You can never be his/her mother, father, sister or brother -just as they too cannot replace you as the Love of his life. And if you have all his/her love, affection and attention, do you seriously have to compete with anyone? I guess you can answer that.

9. Never Take Things Personal: I know Some in-laws can be quite frustrating. Even upon all you do, they just don't see the good in all your efforts. For such people, never take anything personal. If there is anything you are displeased with, calmly discuss it with your spouse and let him know you are hurt. Again, discuss it with your spouse and not your girlfriends who will tell you to break 29 bottles of Gulder on your mother-in-law's head.

10. Do Not Denigrate Yourself: That you have to sacrifice some things as a wife or husband does not mean that you have to do away with your dignity. It is NOT your duty to be washing clothes for your in-laws or sweeping their homes every weekend. Of course, you can make delicacies for them but if you feel like you are being used as a slave, stop! By the way, where is your husband? He didn't marry a servant, right? Do not allow your dignity to be assaulted but be composed.

11. Let The Two Families Flow! How is your sister relating with your husband's siblings? Are they on good terms or they have never even met face to face? It's another thing if there is a distance barrier but if they are all within the same vicinity, then let in-laws from both sides mix -it will only reduce your headache.

12. Love Your Spouse -Deeply! I guess this should have been first point. Loving your partner sincerely and deeply is the very foundation of everything. It is the burning love and deep passion that for him that you transfer to his family. Always rekindle your love -and you see your relationship with your in-laws blossoming.




90-year-old Saudi Arabian man sues the family of his 15-year-old child-bride

A 90-year-old Saudi Arabian man is suing the family of his 15-year-old child-bride after she shut herself in her bedroom on their wedding night.
The terrified teen locked the door from the inside so that her new husband could not enter on their first night as a married couple, and two days later she fled back to her parents’ home.
Now her elderly husband wants his money back as he claims he paid the parents £10,767 ($17,500) for the teenager so they could wed.
Against her will: The 15-year-old Saudi girl locked herself in her bedroom on the night of her wedding to a 90-year-old man
Against her will: The 15-year-old Saudi girl locked herself in her bedroom on the night of her wedding to a 90-year-old man
The 90-year-old said he paid the dowry to the young girl’s Saudi mother and Yemeni father, making the marriage ‘legal and correct’,Al Arabiya reported.
 The 15-year-old’s arranged marriage sparked outrage and widespread condemnation in Saudi Arabia where activists took to Twitter calling it child trafficking and prostitution.
A Mouhammad Khaled Alnuzha posted on his account: ‘Is this a case of human trafficking crimes punishable by law?’
Too young: Child marriage is common in sub-Saharan Africa and south-east Asia
Too young: Child marriage is common in sub-Saharan Africa and south-east Asia
Another Tweeted: ‘She is still considered as a product! A father sells his daughter without mercy, to be bought by money and status and power; all of it for the sake of fulfilling a desire.’
A member of the Saudi National Association for Human Rights (NSHR), Suhaila Zein el-Abedin urged authorities to ‘save this child from tragedy,’ adding that marriage in Islam must be based on mutual consent.
She also blamed the girls parents for accepting the dowry and marrying off their daughter to a man 75 years older than her, underlining the importance of establishing a minimum age of 18 for marriage in Saudi Arabia.

Monday, 7 January 2013

"Yahoo Boys" In EFCC Nest

8 young men were apprehended at the 1004 Estate in Victoria Island on Friday 4th of January 2013. Wilson Uwujaren, Head of Media and Publicity for the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) confirmed.
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According to sources, EFCC acted on a tip-off from a resident of the estate. “A petition by a concerned group alerted the Commission about the activities of Olusegun and his co-travelers at the elite 1004 Housing Estate where the fraudsters engaged in fraudulent activities of obtaining money by false pretences and forgery.“
The EFCC press release states
“One of the undergraduates, Hope Olusegun, a 25 year-old from Okene in Kogi State, and claims to be a student of Computer Science at the Kuala Lumpur Metropolitan University, Malaysia. He was arrested by operatives of EFCC over allegations of fraud and internet scam.
A search conducted by EFCC operatives at Olusegun’ s apartment led to the recovery of several items such as laptops, iPad phones, traveling documents, cheque books, flash drives, internet modem, and three exotic cars – a Mercedes Benz Jeep, One 4Matic Mercedes Benz Car and a Range Rover Sport SUV.
When asked how he came about the cars, Olusegun said the cars belonged to his sister who he claimed lives in the United Kingdom. Operatives of the EFCC also downloaded over 80 implicating documents from the laptops recovered from Olusegun.
However, the Commission is making effort to track down other members of Olusegun’s syndicate who are currently at large. Tunde Wasiu Sodiq, another undergraduate and member of another syndicate with close affinity to Olusegun’s gang was also nabbed by operatives of the EFCC at the Housing Estate.
Besides Sodiq, six other members of the syndicate were equally arrested. They are Badmus Akeem O, Ajijola Oluwatosin Emmanuel, Adebesin Olalekan, Raji Resaq O, Ajibola Adeniyi and Adeboye Lamidi.
Their arrest was sequel to a petition on their notorious activities at the Housing Estate. Sodiq (23) hails from Lagos and claimed to be an undergraduate of Brandry University, Malaysia.
The leader of the syndicate, Badmus Akeem, hails from Ayetoro, Ogun State and attended Oniwaya High School, Agege. He claimed to be a traveler who does odd jobs wherever he travels.”
Here is what the alleged leader of the syndicate Badmus Akeem is quoted to have said – “I decided to move to Malaysia to further my education while I do “Hot jobs” as well. I just got back a week ago before the festive period and also produce music and manage artistes.“
When asked why he chose to live in 1004 at the rate of N30,000 daily, he responded that it was to avoid the stress that friends and relations could bring to him – “I didn’t stay on the Mainland in Lagos because of stress of friends when you just get back from abroad.”
Sodiq claimed the Range Rover Sport car which was recovered from them belonged to his mother. This raised suspicions as the personalized number plate bears his nickname – “T.Wizzle”. In his statement, he claimed his mother “decided to customize the car plate number after the name of her first son.“
The representative of the EFCC confirmed that the suspects will be arraigned in court soon. In addition to the vehicles, other items seized include laptops, flash drives, internet modems and cheque books.

TIPS FOR COUPLES TO EXPLORE AFTER HONEYMOON

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Truth be told, the real relationship begins when the honeymoon is over. Happy couples know this very fact and they know that unless you maintain the garden of love, its beauty will wither and die.
Now discover the 10 things that happy couples do:
1. Go to bed at the same time. Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you couldn’t wait to go to bed with each other to make love? Happy couples resist the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner wakes up later to do things while their partner sleeps.
2. Cultivate common interests. After the passion settles down, it’s common to realize that you have few interests in common. But don’t minimize the importance of activities you can do together that you both enjoy. If common interests are not present, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to cultivate interests of your own; this will make you more interesting to your mate and prevent you from appearing too dependent.
3. Walk hand in hand or side by side. Rather than one partner lagging or dragging behind the other, happy couples walk comfortably hand in hand or side by side. They know it’s more important to be with their partner than to see the sights along the way.
4. Make trust and forgiveness your default mode. If and when they have a disagreement or argument, and if they can’t resolve it, happy couples default to trusting and forgiving rather than distrusting and begrudging.
5. Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong. If you look for things your partner does wrong, you can always find something. If you look for what he or she does right, you can always find something, too. It all depends on what you want to look for. Happy couples accentuate the positive.
6. Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work. Our skin has a memory of “good touch” (loved), “bad touch” (abused) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say hello with a hug keep their skin bathed in the “good touch,” which can inoculate your spirit against anonymity in the world.
7. Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning. This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance as each partner sets out each day to battle traffic jams, long lines and other annoyances.
8. Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel. This tells your partner that, regardless of how upset you are with him or her, you still want to be in the relationship. It says that what you and your partner have is bigger than any single upsetting incident.
9. Do a “weather” check during the day. Call your partner at home or at work to see how his or her day is going. This is a great way to adjust expectations so that you’re more in sync when you connect after work. For instance, if your partner is having an awful day, it might be unreasonable to expect him or her to be enthusiastic about something good that happened to you.
10. Be proud to be seen with your partner. Happy couples are pleased to be seen together and are often in some kind of affectionate contact — hand on hand or hand on shoulder or knee or back of neck. They are not showing off but rather just saying that they belong with each other.

Housemaid invites boyfriend to rob boss, feigns kidnap

The police in Lagos State have arrested a 27-year-old housemaid, Mariam Acheme, and four others for allegedly robbing the housemaid’s boss.

According to police authorities, the housemaid, invited her boyfriend, Dansu Akokran, and another person at large to rob her boss and also stage her own kidnap.

The Police Public Relations Officer of the state command, Ngozi Braide, said, “On November 26, 2012, the housemaid invited her boyfriend to her boss’ house when the madam had gone out. On getting to the house, the boyfriend and another person ransacked the entire house.

“They vandalised the doors and also stole all the valuables. The housemaid then padlocked the gate from outside and fled with them.”

PUNCH Metro learnt that when the owner of the house arrived, she discovered that all her valuables were gone and Acheme was nowhere to be found.

The victim was said to have immediately reported the matter to the Bode Thomas Police Division.

Braide said a few days later, someone contacted the housemaid’s boss and informed her that Acheme had been kidnapped. She said the woman returned to the police and informed them of the development.

Braide said, “The madam told the police that some men called and said they had kidnapped the housemaid. The men asked for N5m and said if the money was not paid, they would not release her. The housemaid spoke to her ‘madam’ on the phone, crying and telling her that she was being tortured by the kidnappers and urged her boss to pay the ransom immediately.

“The Divisional Police Officer, Bode Ojajuni, immediately swung into action. Detectives at the station were able to establish contact with the kidnappers and urged them to collect N1m. The kidnappers then sent a bank account number which the money should be paid into.”

It was learnt that the account number belonged to one Prosper Tatou, a bricklayer.

Through the bank account number, policemen traced the owner to Agbara area of Ogun State and accosted him.

A close police source, who craved anonymity, said Tatou led the police to the hideout of the other suspects.

He said, “Tatou said he knew nothing about any kidnap but told us that a few days earlier, his brother, Jean Mari, had asked him to send his bank account number because he needed to receive some money from someone.

“Tatou then led us to a deserted building where his brother lives. At the house, we were able to arrest those who masterminded the purported kidnap.”

Detectives were however shocked when they saw the housemaid in the compound.

“That was when we discovered that she connived with her boyfriend to commit the crime,” the police source said.

Acheme however denied conniving with the kidnappers.

She said although she had invited her boyfriend to come and visit her when the incident occurred, she had no clue of his intentions.

“I invited my boyfriend (Dansu) to come and visit me at the house when my madam had gone out. When he arrived, he came with another guy and both of them pushed me into the toilet and locked me there. They stole all my madam’s things and then kidnapped me,” she said.

When asked why she did not escape from the purported kidnappers’ den when she had the chance, she said, “I could not escape because I did not know the terrain.”

She added, “My boss was very nice to me. She paid me N12, 000 a month and I had worked with her for seven months and she never maltreated me.

“She has two grown-up children and they even give me tip when I do their laundry. I could not have repaid their kindness with wickedness.”

Dansu also claimed to be innocent, saying it was his friend, Femi, who is now at large, that planned the whole thing.

The PPRO seized the opportunity to warn employers of domestic servants to be wary of the people they hire, noting that cases of crimes being committed by domestic servants seem to be on the rise.

The PPRO noted that the suspects were all nationals of Benin Republic and said it was necessary for employers to register their domestic servants at the nearest police stations.

Thursday, 3 January 2013

Wife Seeks Divorce Two Days Into Marriage

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This might make the Kim Kardashians and Britney Spears of this world green with envy as they now have a contemporary here in Nigeria who holds the unofficial title of shortest-lived marriage – two days.
It was a ‘win-win’ situation for Babaginda Dan-Auta of Maraban Jos and Laure Sulaiman when they got their wish yesterday from a Kaduna Sharia Court II, Magajin Gari, to dissolve their two-day-old marriage but under the condition that the bride, Laure, pay back the dowry she collected.
While Laure had on December 10 last year approached the court to dissolve the marriage, saying she was no longer in love with Dan-Auta, the groom claimed that she lied about the number of kids she had from a previous union.
According to Laure’s husband, though she told him she had three kids, he later found out that she had given birth to eight children.
He noted that the woman left their home two days after the wedding, asking him to divorce her.
In her own arguement, Laure had told the court: “I don’t love him and I want this court to grant me divorce. I am ready to return the N10,000 he paid as dowry. I cannot be obedient to him as a wife.’’
Dan-Auta disputed the wife’s claim on the amount paid as dowry.
He said that he paid N17, 000 and not N10,000.
The Khadi, Malam Ibrahim Inuwa, had adjourned the case three times before granting the request for divorce.
He had earlier given the couple up to yesterday to reconcile their differences but the couple opted for divorce instead saying they were unable to resolve their differences.
Inuwa, therefore, ordered Laure to pay back the N17,000 dowry by tomorrow (January 4) following which the union could be legally dissolved.

Twin sisters give birth on the same day

Identical twins sisters have given birth on the same day, just hours apart.
Ashlee Nelson,19 and her sister Aimee gave birth within two hours of each other on New Year’s Eve.
Although the identical the twins are best friends, they rarely did everything together and had not planned to give birth on the same day.
The due dates were a week apart with Aimee going into hospital in Akron, Ohio, first. Two hours later her sister was taken to the same hospital.
The son of Aimee and Matthew Bratten, 20, arrived first. He weighed seven pounds, two and a half ounces and measured 21 inches long and was named Donavyn.
Sister Ashelee and her partner Cody Dilts had a girl called Aiden who weighed eight pounds, 12 ounces and measured 22 and a half inches long.
Twin mothers in US give birth on the same day
The babies were both delivered by Dr Laura Schnegg at the Summa City Hospital in Akron.
‘We didn’t think it was going to be this close at all,’ said Aimee. ‘We tried getting induced together but they wouldn’t let us. That was like two weeks ago, but it happened anyway.’
‘We’re best friends,’ said Ashlee of herself and her sister, who added, ‘Now our babies are going to be best friends.’
Proud grandmother Marcella Frason said the double delivery had made Christmas special.
‘Even the babies had things under the trees,’ she said. ‘They got little outfits, snowsuits, rattles, little toys, and they got their first Hot Wheels cars. They weren’t even here yet and they got their first gifts from Santa.’
Mrs Farson said the mothers didn’t plan same-day births and were not raised to do things alike. The due dates were about a week apart.
Asked if she ever dressed them alike as girls, Mrs Farson said: ‘Only when they were little. When they got to their individuality stage, I allowed them to do what they wanted — and they did for the most part.
‘But the funny part is that nine times out of 10, one would come home with one thing purple and the other one would do the same thing but pink.’

Wednesday, 2 January 2013

Facebook fraudster steals N235,000 from job seeker

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A 36-year-old man, Olalekan Kazeem, has been arrested by the Lagos State Police Command for alleged fraud and theft.
According to police authorities, the suspect’s modus operandi was to either impersonate a popular person on facebook and defraud unsuspecting people or to offer women free rides with his car only to make away with their valuables.
PUNCH Metro learnt that five women had fallen victim to his tricks, three of whom were National Youth Service Corps members.
The police also said the suspect was five years ago arrested and paraded before journalists.
The victims told journalists at the office of the Police Public Relations Officer that the suspect made away with cash, documents, ATM cards and their handbags.
One of the victims, Adenike Odubiyi, said Kazeem posed as Prince Adekunle Oyekan on facebook.
She said, “On facebook, someone with the name Prince Adekunle Oyekan, sent me a friend request. He never used his own personal picture rather; he used the Nigerian Coat of Arms logo as his picture.
“I accepted his request and he was able to get my BlackBerry PIN on my profile page and we used to chat a lot.
“One day he asked me what I was doing for living but I told him that I completed my NYSC in February but had no job. He told me he had connections with the Nigerian Customs Service and that he could help me get a job there.”
Odubiyi said the suspect demanded for N235,000 and told her that they would need to travel to the NCS Headquarters, Abuja together.
She said on November 15, 2012, she met the suspect at Motorways Plaza, and she got into his car.
She said, “My husband dropped me off at Motorways where I met Kazeem. Kazeem later told me that he was a surgeon and that his real name was Babs Adegoroye.
“On our way to the Ikeja Airport, he stopped to buy fuel at Mobolaji Johnson Avenue. After buying fuel, he said his car was faulty and asked me to help push it (car) so he could kick start it.
“I alighted from the vehicle, leaving all my money (N235, 000), my original credentials and other valuables in his car. Immediately I pushed the car, Kazeem started it and sped off.”
Three NYSC members, who also fell victim to the suspect, said Kazeem offered them a free ride in Oyo State but made away with their belongings.
The victims – Fadeke Adefemi, Ganiyat Ibrahim and Folashade Okunola – were on their way from their Community Development Service when they met the suspect.
Adefemi said, “On December 20, 2012, my colleagues and I were on our way back from CDS on Ishara end of Lagos-Ibadan Expressway when Kazeem saw us in our uniform. He offered us a ride and we boarded his car.
“When we got to Guru Maraji area, he said his car was faulty and asked us to alight and push it. As we were pushing it, the car started and he sped off. All our belongings were in his vehicle, including phones.”
Another victim, Janet Akinbo, said she had a similar experience with Kazeem when he picked her up at Berger end of the Lagos-Ibadan Expressway.
She said, “My ATM card, phone and my original credentials were left in Kazeem’s car. My ATM PIN was my date of birth and Kazeem was able to obtain this information from my curriculum vitae.
“He was able to withdraw all the money in my bank account which was N104, 000.”
The suspect, who claimed to be a graduate of Civil Engineering, Federal Polytechnic, Ilaro, told PUNCH Metrothat he took to crime because he needed to take care of his wife and four children.
“I became a fraudster because I had fallen victim to fraudsters before. I used to be a foreman for a building construction company but needed more money to take care of my family,” he said.
When quizzed about how he escaped being sent to jail five years ago, the suspect said he was acquitted of all charges.
The PPRO, Ngozi Braide, seized the opportunity to warn members of the public, especially women, to be very careful when dealing with strangers.
“The case of Cynthia Osokogu should serve as a lesson to young women that meeting strangers on social networks or getting into a car with a strange man is dangerous,” she said, adding that the suspect was arrested through intelligence gathering.
She said, “After the lady he met on facebook (Odubiyi) reported at Ogudu Police Station, detectives were able to find him and when his place was searched, some belongings of the other victims were found.
“Through their items, we were able to contact them. However, we couldn’t recover their certificates.”

30-Year-Woman Banned From Getting Pregnant For The Next 13 Years

A mother who left her four kids in a hotel room to go out partying has been banned from giving birth to more children for 13 years.
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Kimberly Lightsey, aged 30, agreed to not get pregnant before 2025 to avoid five years in jail.
She had earlier told the court in Bartow, Florida, she wanted to have more kids.
Lightsey left the youngsters – aged one to 11 – alone at a hotel in Winter Haven, Florida.
Cops were called after a guest heard crying noises. One child with epilepsy and cerebral palsy had needed constant care.
Lightsey, who had been serving four years’ probation for child abuse in 2009, was arrested on her return to the room.
She was put under two years’ house arrest and banned from any unsupervised contact with children. All her kids have been placed in the care of relatives.