Tuesday 14 May 2013

An Open Letter to Women from Men

Dear Women,
First of all, we’re sorry. We’re sorry that although we look like men, we often act like boys. We’re not even sure what it means to be men anymore. As we grow up, we learn that to be happy is to be self-indulgent and self-centered. We try to make enough money so that we can have the right TV with the right video games in the right home. We want to date you and maybe even marry you but we are scared to focus on someone else instead of ourselves. Isn’t it sad that we see committing to you as a potential threat to our happiness instead of a wonderful opportunity?
Here’s what we don’t understand: True happiness comes from being true men. We think and act like boys who don’t want their toys taken away. We look up to “role models” in the media who teach us to get as much gratification out of life as possible. We may claim to be spiritual, or even firm atheists, but pleasure is the god that we worship, whether we realize it or not. Unfortunately, women tend to be just another part of our hedonistic lifestyle. Please know this: True men won’t treat you like an irritating obstacle or a sexual convenience.
A real man understands that women are to be cherished and treated with care and honor. He sees marriage as the opportunity to be a real-life superhero—he leaves behind his old identity and becomes a new person, dedicated to serving his wife and children. Although he will struggle at first, a true man who marries eventually understands that he can’t fit through the narrow doorway to happiness if he tries to carry all of his toys with him. There is just enough room for him and his wife, arm in arm, committed to their marriage.
Women, you can help us become real men! Most importantly, we want to feel admired by you. Help us to know that you love us just as we are, even if there is room for improvement. Do this by giving us words of validation; praise us for the things we do well. This means more to us than we let on.
In return, we will make sure that you feel loved and cherished by us. We will learn to talk with you so you can be heard and understood, not so that we can tell you how to solve your problems. We’ll also try to learn to express how we feel without withdrawing or getting angry. With polished communication we can learn that what makes you happy makes us happy too! What a concept!
Once again, we’re sorry. We are to blame, even though good male role models are hard to find these days. We’ve ignored our calling to become true men and instead act like we’re in high school for as long as we can. Please trust that we are capable of more than this.
If you are frustrated with the man in your life, do your best to forgive him and start fresh. After a while, if it’s clear that he will not become a real man, leave him. You deserve better.
A healthy relationship will make everyone involved feel happy. When we are happy, we are capable of living meaningful and fulfilling lives alongside one another. Thank you for your understanding and patience as we journey onward to find happiness and become real men.

75 Timeless Relationship Truths

Some of the biggest challenges come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something : they try to find someone who is going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a Relationship last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take. This is the most possible reason why relationships breaks. There are hundreds of things to know and understand if you want to build a healthy relationship. If you feel you know all of them, I guess you are not in any problems, but if you don’t, take time to carefully these 75 Relationships truths and feel what your heart says. You would certainly find an answer to your question.
1. To know when to go away and when to come closer is the key to any lasting relationship.
2. The Best relationships involve trust, when both partners feel secure with each other, communication understanding, honesty and not having to worry about cheating and lies.
3. A little jealousy in a relationship is healthy, its nice to know that someone is afraid to lose you.
4. A true relationship is when you can tell each other anything and everything. No secrets and No lies.
5. People who are meant to be together find their way back, they may take a few detours, But they are never lost.
6. Forgiveness is the oil of relationships.
7. Real magic in Relationships an absence of judgement of others.
8. A very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you, Not because he was perfect or because you were, But because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.
9. The most important thing in a relationship between a man and a woman is than one of them must be good at taking orders.
10. If you carry bricks from your past relationship to your new one, you will build the same house.
11. Being in a relationship is a full time job, so don’t apply if you are not ready.
12. Forget all the reasons why it won’t work and believe the one reason why it will.
13. Every relationship is different. So don’t compare your last one to your new relationship.
14. It’s not about who you spend the most time with. But it’s about who you have the memories with.
15. Remember, we all stumble, everyone of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand.
16. Go for someone who is not only proud and glad to have you, but will also take every risk and effort just to be with you.
17. A relationship without trust is like having a phone with no service. And what do you do with a phone with no service? You play games.
18. Sometimes people are beautiful not in looks. Not in what they say. Just in what they are.
19. It’s nice to have someone in your life that makes you smile even when they are not around.
20. Never play with the feelings of others. Because you may win the game but the risk is that you will surely lose the person for a life time.
21. If a man expects his woman to be an angel in his life. Then he should first create a Heaven for her.
22. Too often we don’t realize what we have until it is gone. Too often too stubborn to say “ Sorry, I was wrong “, Too often it seems we hurt the ones closest to our hearts, And we let the most foolish things tear us apart.
23. Never let someone who adds very little to a relationship, control so much of it.
24. Keep people in your life that truly love you, motivate you, encourage you, inspire you, enhance you and make you happy. If you have people who do none of the above, LET THEM GO.
25. It is difficult to know at what moment love begins ; But it is less difficult to know that it has begun. So listen to your heart.
26. Distance is not a big factor in Relationships. Communication is. But most of all, Commitment is the biggest.
27. The best thing in life is finding someone who knows all of your flaws and mistakes and weaknesses and still thinks that you are completely amazing.
28. Be weird. Be random. Be who you actually are. Because you never know who would love the person you hide in yourself.
29. A relationship without trust is like a car with gas. You can stay in it all you want. But it won’t go anywhere.
30. It is very easy to defeat someone. But it is very hard to win someone.
31. We live in a world in which judgement is more important than getting to know that person.
32. You know, it’s LOVE when all you want is that person to be HAPPY, even if you are not a part of their HAPPINESS.
33. Every relationship has its problems. But what makes it perfect is when you still want to be there when everything sucks.
34. Relationships are like birds, if you hold tightly they die, if you hold loosely they fly, but if you hold with care they remain with you forever …. !!!
35. Never cry for the person who hurts you. Just smile and say “ Thanks for giving me a chance to find someone better than you “.
36. Eighty percent of your life’s satisfaction comes from a meaningful relationship.
37. Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience and two people who truly want to be together.
38. In a relationship, Honesty and Trust must exist. If they don’t, there is no point of loving. So if you can’t afford to be honest, stay single.
39. Silence and smile are two powerful tools. Smile is the way to solve many problems in relationships and silence is the way to avoid many problems.
40. In a Relationship, Promise is a big word. It either makes something or it breaks everything.
41. In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take, the relationships we were too afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make.
42. The amount of love you have for someone seems to always be greater than the amount of pain they give you. Because no matter how much they hurt you, we still choose to stay.
43. Most relationships fail not because of the absence of love. Love is always present. It’s just that one loves too much and the other loves too little.
44. When people walk away from you, LET THEM GO. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you and it doesn’t mean they are bad people. It just means that their part in your story is over.
45. It’s sad how someone can go from being the reason you wake up smiling to crying yourself to sleep.
46. If someone wants to be a part of your life, they will make an effort to be in it. So don’t bother reserving a space in your heart for someone who doesn’t make an effort to stay.
47. Respect people’s feelings. Even if it doesn’t mean anything to you. But it could mean everything to them.
48. Distance in relationships can cause you to miss someone so much that it helps you to realize how much that person means to you.
49. At some point, you have to realize that some people can stay in your heart. But not in your LIFE.
50. Everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go. Things go wrong so that you appreciate them when the’re right. You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.
51. The hardest part about walking away from someone is that you know, no matter how long you go, They will never run after you.
52. Love is like two people pulling a rubber band. If one lets it go, it hurts the one who held on.
53. It’s so easy to believe someone when they tell you exactly what you want to hear.
54. Feelings will change. But memories will never change.
55. Someday someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else.
56. Love knows no answer. Because it doesn’t question.
57. Sometimes you just need to distance yourself from people. If they care, they’ll notice. If they don’t, You know where you stand.
58. The ultimate taste of a relationship is to disagree, but still hold hands.
59. A real life partner is someone who walks in, When the rest of the world walks out.
60. Find someone worth your tears, worth your laughter, worth your heart and that loves you as much as you love them.
61. Being in a relationship is not kissing, dates or showing off. It’s about being with the person who makes you happy in a way that nobody else can do.
62. The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they are alive.
63. Relationships are possible only when two Egos are dropped. Otherwise four persons are involved, Two Real and Two Imaginary. ..
64. A true relationship is someone who accepts your Past, supports your Present, loves you and encourages your future.
65. There comes a point in your life when you realize who really matters, who never did and who always will.
66. It’s hard when someone special ignores you. But it’s harder pretending that you just don’t care.
67. The happiness of life is made up of minute fractions – the little, soon-forgotten charities of a kiss or smile, a kind look, a heart-felt compliment and the countless infinitesimals of pleasurable and genial feeling.
68. There is no perfect relationships. It’s how we accept the Imperfections that makes it Perfect.
69. Sometimes you just gotta be your own hero and save your own little heart. Because sometimes, the people you can’t imagine living without, can actually live without you.
70. Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with everything they have.
71. The best relationship is the one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.
72. You can’t stop loving or wanting to love because when it’s right it’s the best thing in the world. When you are in a relationship and its good. Even if nothing else in your life is right. You feel like your whole world is complete.
73. Sometimes, the people who are thousands of miles away from you, can make you feel better than people right beside you.
74. It’s the things in common that make relationships enjoyable, but it’s the little differences that make them interesting.
75. Find someone who will never get tired of kissing you everyday, who will hug you when you are jealous, who will understandingly keep silent when you’re mad, who will squeeze your hand when you are not in the mood, who will plan and imagine the future with you in it and when you find that someone, JUST NEVER LET GO.

4 Keys Ways to Love Your Life Partner More

If you are in a relationship where you feel that your partner loves you so much, but you don’t feel that kind of love, then you must know the answer of this question. Keeping love in a relationship is extremely important to keep the connection alive. There is always a connection between you and your partner. You have to understand it and prepare yourself in such a way that your partner also feels a connection with you. The stronger the connection is, the stronger is your relationship.
If the connection is weak between you and your partner, you must be careful about yourself and how much you contribute to the relationship. This is what will ultimately decide how much strong your relationship. If the relationship is strong, the connection must be strong. So if you want to keep a good relationship with your partner, you should always keep an eye on building a strong connection with your life partner. This is what would ultimately teach you how to love your partner more than ever before. The following points are very helpful to build a strong connection with your life partner.
1, Understand Your Partner’s Feelings.
It is very important that you understand what your partner wants from you. It is also very important to understand what your partner doesn’t like. Though it may not be always possible to agree with whatever your partner wants, it is better not to get into any altercation with your partner. The more you would understand your partner’s feelings, the more there is a chance for you to build a connection with your partner. If you love your partner so much, your partner would also feel that. Because it is your true feelings. At least, most of the time it happens.
I don’t know when someone doesn’t understand true love. But according to me, if someone truly loves a person, there is enough chance for that person to understand it. If someone is acting to love so much, it will ultimately be caught. By the way, if there is true love in a relationship, there is enough chance to create a strong connection. So understand your partner’s feelings at first.
2, Give Value to Your Partner’s Likes and Dislikes.
Try to give enough value for what your partner wants and doesn’t want. If your partner doesn’t like you to do something, try not to do that if possible. Don’t try to cheat your partner and do something that your partner doesn’t like. One day, you will be caught and you might not have anything to say. Your relationship might break or even if it doesn’t break, there will be very little chance to build a good connection again. Don’t just try to keep a good connection with your partner, but keep it all the time.
Giving value to your partner’s feelings will make it possible for your partner to understand your feelings. This is what is actually required that your partner understands your love. This will also express how much importance you give to the relationship. Believe me, your partner would like it. This is the time, the connection between you and your partner is going to be strong.

3, Don’t Insult Your Partner’s Feelings.
Giving value to whatever your partner wants may not be possible all the time. But even if you don’t like what your partner likes, there is no need to argue. Don’t try to show what you are liking is good and what your partner likes is not good. It will hurt your partner. Rather, don’t say anything.
Do not make any comments on what you feel and what your partner feels. If you really want to make your partner understand it, you may do something to make your partner understand it, without saying it directly. Once your partner feels it and understand the mistake, you may say something on that, but not before that.
4, Don’t Argue with Your Partner Frequently.
People don’t like someone who always try to show that he ( she ) is right. You may be right in your decision. But your partner may not agree with you. Remember, everyone has a different kind of mentality. So everyone will always have a different kind of understanding on a single thing.
May be, what your partner is thinking is wrong. But according to your partner, that is right and what you are thinking is wrong. At this moment, if you directly argue with your partner about that, your partner will not like it. Rather, you should keep quite and find a suitable time to talk about it.
Arguments would never bring a good solution. But without arguing, if you just talk about what is right and wrong, you partner might catch your point of view. If there is a connection of love between you and your partner, it is quite easy to get a solution to any problem. If your partner is a little different, it might be a little difficult for you to make it possible.
However, whatever the condition is, altercation with your partner is never a good habit. It doesn’t help you build a good connection with your partner. In a relationship, there are many other things you may need to be careful about, but  following the above rules would surely help you a lot.