Got this from a fellow blogger, and decided to share this
My name is Temmy(a banker) and I've
being dating my boyfriend Francis(33,engr with an oil company) for two
and half years. Until recently, I was almost sure our relationship would
lead to marriage.
Francis and I are very much in love,
and despite coming from different tribes( I'm yoruba, Francis is igbo),
our families have given their blessings, and things have been rosy
between us until now.
The thing is, Francis usually goes home
to spend Christmas with his extended family in Aguata, Anambra state,
and comes back only after new year. The first Christmas after we met, he
playfully invited me to come with him to his village, but I politely
refused. He didn't seem upset, and just laughed it off after I explained
to him that we had only just met.
Last year, he asked me again to follow
him to meet his family, but I declined, despite him appealing to me by
every means possible. On seeing that his appeal fell on deaf ears, he
refused to talk to me until he got back from the village. He simply
didn't pick my calls, despite knowing I would be worried sick. This
shocked me very much, and I wondered If his reaction was commensurate
with my action. Even though he apologized, and explained that he only
acted like that cos he was hurt, I realized there was perhaps a side of
Francis I was yet to discover, but soon forgot all about the incident
after things went back to normal, even better.
This year, Francis has broached the
topic again. He says his extended family is dying to meet me, and
insists I must come with him, else, he might start to rethink the whole
relationship. Although I've gone away with him for weekends in the
past(outside Nigeria) on a couple of occasions, I find going to the
village with him very unsettling. This is because my parents are not in
support of the Idea, and are generally against travelling out of Lagos
during festive seasons. I am also very scared of travelling to as place I
barely know anyone; coupled with the fact that I have never spent any
Xmas outside Lagos.
My parents wonder why he insists,
knowing fully well I've being to my village in Ijebu just twice in my 28
years of existence. My mum particularly is very upset because she had
spoken to him about the matter but he remains adamant. She believes
Francis should be more understanding and willing to compromise by seeing
things from my perspective.
Considering what happened after I
refused last year, I fear that he might make good his threat(rethink the
relationship), and start considering other girls( Girls disturb and
flock around him a lot, though he seems to only have eyes for me...until
now). However, I'm scared of traveling that far, and I certainly don't
want to disobey my parents. How do I get him to reason with me on this
matter? I love Francis very much and don't want to loose him. I also
feel the matter is trivial and his reaction exaggerated. I've invested so much time and emotions into what Francis and I have and cant bare to
see it just end like that.
Please advice me.