A theology professor was teaching about proverbs 15:1. He asked his students, "why do we shout in anger? why do people shout at each other when they are upset?
The students thought for a while. One of them said, because we lose our calm, we shout for that.
why shout when the other person is just next to you?" asked the
professor. "isn't it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice?
why do you shout at a person when you are angry?
students gave some other answers, but none satisfied the professor.
Finally he explained, "when two people are angry at each other, their
hearts psychologically distance themselves. To cover the distance, they
must shout to be able to hear each other. the angrier they are, the
stronger they will shout to hear each other through the great distance.
the professor asked, "what happens when two people fall in love? they
don't shout at each other but talk softly, why? because their hearts are
psychologically very close, the distance between them is very small.
the professor continued, "when they love each other even more, what
happens? They do not speak, only whisper, and they get even closer to
each other in their love.
Finally they even need not whisper, they only
look at each other and that's all...
so next time you shout to a loved one, know that you are creating distance between your heart and that person's heart.